Unnatural we

There are always some differences between two similar animals or plants. Two kittens of same mother are little different. Walking styles of two tigers are different. Two branches of same kind of trees are different. However similar it may seem, if seen minutely even twin brothers also have some differences. Creating this difference is the basic feature of nature. May be that’s for our nature is so beautiful so interesting. Otherwise it would have been monotonous. Darwin shown that, this difference in creation leaded to so many species in nature.

 But most of us in most of the time forget to respect this basic rule of nature. If someone does not agree with us on some issue we become angry. If our son or daughter listen some modern song that we do not like, we shout on them. If our mother or grandmother is talking about spirituality, we think it to be disgusting. We do not keep good impression about our colleague, who supports the other political party. See the other side – we chose your education stream same as our cousin brother who is successful in his carrier. We expected our spouse to be of similar nature of our brother or sister. We expected our kid to be similar like his/her class topper.

 If we try to give one orange shape of another orange with a knife, only thing that will result is the juice of the orange will be drained out. If we put little more attention to understand, variation to be the basic rule of nature, we can stop drainage of juice. If we accept this basic rule; disagreement, mismatches will not look so much painful and we can have more peaceful life.

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Different manager

One chief operation manager was supposed to join a software development company at its development centre. Its head office was at some different location. It was a Monday when he was supposed to join. Before joining he planned his first day with his would be PA (personal assistant). He kept his first days work very short. Beside the joining formalities he kept a meeting with the sweepers and cleaners, that’s all. For rest of the days of the week he told that he will be busy in head office. He told his PA that he will start his full activity at development centre from the next Monday.

 In the meeting with the sweepers along with the maintenance head, he announced that the sweepers have to be off from work for a week or so, till he does not say to join again. He told that it will be a paid off. He told maintenance head not to make any alternative arrangement for the work. With his hard face he specifically mentioned that it is his first instruction and it should be followed without any question. He left the meeting and left for the day. People started to guess lots of things and rumors started to spread.

 As planned he went to head office from the next day and started his activities. Tuesday people somehow managed, Wednesday they became angry, Thursday it was intolerable, Friday they become furious. People tried to contact him to know why he has given such order. He kept on avoiding answering and only said it should be followed. People planned to report against him, they planned protest. People lost concentration in work and kept on discussing the issue. Most of the people thought that may be during weekend some higher authority will solve the problem.

 When on next Monday people found that the situation is unchanged and it is too bad, they stopped working and broke into protest. Chief Officer came little late and while entering he could feel the situation. As soon he entered his office, his PA told that lots of high ranked people want to meet him immediately. Then he called for an immediate all hands meeting.

 He took all the updates of events for the last one week from his PA. He told to the gathering that “ I didn’t know that sweepers have such a big contribution in software product….. I think sweepers get less than one tenth salary of junior most engineers. But I could not think they are so valuable in the company…. Tell me what is the problem if I do not want to keep a few so called lowest category, lowest qualified people in such a big software company?” Now the crowd understood his intention and kept spell bound. He continued”Sorry for the weeklong inconvenience to you. But I could not otherwise make you convinced, how important the sweepers are in a software company….. If sweepers are so important, my dear engineers, you can feel how important you are in this organization….. Never think that you are doing a less important or more important work than other. I am also no way more important than you. Every person is equally important for the organization. We only play different roles……  Some of you may ask if we all are equally important why we don’t get same salary. Here you have to understand the difference between the importance and the value creation. Your salary depends on how much value you create to the business of the organization. If you are a good artist, your quality may not pay you much to draw flow diagram, but it may pay you high in film industry….. Let me tell you one incident of my life to understand the difference between importance and value. In one of my previous company there was an office boy who was little dull but was very sincere, obedient and always having smiling face. He used to do exactly what was told to do, nothing more, nothing less. I used to keep work for him in a tray with notes. He used to do one after another. One day I put a paper to be sent by fax. I put a note on a paper “to be faxed by 11:30” and put the number also. I left for a meeting. Actually that day he was absent and so another new boy on his substitution took the work. Somehow the number was not working. The new fellow turned the piece of paper and found another number. He assumed that to be the alternative number. He sent the fax in that number and that was a big blunder. I knew the new fellow tried to be proactive at his level best without disturbing me in meeting. His intension was not wrong. But it was not expected from his level to take the intelligent step. If it was my old fellow he would have asked me. Lack of confidence of my old boy made him important for me. But I can not pay him the salary of a manager, because he is not doing the work of that value. He is indispensable and I can not replace the boy by any other, but his salary can not be excessively high….. So I wish you improve you capability, capacity to produce more value to the organization and grow in your career path, but do your current work with high importance….. Non-cooperation of any of you will create bigger impact to the organization than what happened last week…. As you are equal important with me to the organization you have all rights to point out even my faults if you think so.  ……..”

Are you educated?

“The only purpose of education is to teach a student how to live his life-by developing his mind and equipping him to deal with reality. ..” – Ayn Rand. Reading the quotation all of us will nod our head and will say “correct, absolutely correct”.

 When we get a master or doctorate degree in any of our chosen stream after spending around 20 years in education system we feel we have received best of our education. Yes, it enables us to appear for an interview for a well salaried post. What else did the education system taught us to deal with the reality? Did you learn how to make good friend? Did you learn how to cooperate others and how to get cooperation of others? Did you learn how to talk to others? Did you learn how to impress other? Did you learn how to present yourself? Did you learn how to select your life partner? Did you learn how to approach and propose your liked partner? Did you learn how to plan your career? Did you learn how to manage people in workplace? Did you learn how to enjoy your married life? Did you learn how to keep peace in family life? Did you learn how to make saving? Did you learn how to use the saved money? Did you learn how to take care of your kid? Did you learn how to guide your kid to grow? Did you learn how to do work and life balance? Did you learn how to control your tension? Did you learn how to plan for your old age life? Did you learn how to be happy? …….

 The way we deal the problems are based on our own perception, instant reaction and some spurious input in our life. No methodical and guided approaches are followed. Now go through the initial quotation again and think whether you are educated or not.

Emotional Blackmail

Sometime back one day we had one day motivational workshop in our office. Some people from some management consultant firm came for the camp. A large number of people from our office had to attend the session. In a tea break discussion one of my colleagues told that “I do not believe in these. By these management wants to make us sentimental and want to get our best work at cheap price. These are emotional blackmail. I want to see whether I am getting hike or not. Nothing else motivates me. I am working for money. More you pay money I shall have more interest in work.” It reminded me some old events of my life. I am sharing with you. I do not know who is right who is wrong.

 At beginning of my career I used to work in a government office. Proactive action, motivation etc was valueless there. There used to be fixed increment depending on number of years of service. There was no chance of loosing job if someone does not do a big blunder. You can imagine the work environment. We had individual tables and we used to get our tea and water supply on our table. There was some office boy to do the supply. There was a culture to give some tips to the boys every month to get tea hot and to keep glass always filled up. When I joined a man named “Ratan” started to give me service. Normally people used to call these boys by name. I used to call Ratan as “Ratanbabu”. In our area “babu” is attached after the name to give respect. He was much elder than me. When he used to bring tea for me or fill my glass, I used to say “thank you”, however busy I am. After some day, to my wonder, I found a paper napkin was being given to me along with tea, which is very special and only for me. After some more days I realized that my workplace is cleaner than others. Though came to my mind that being a new person, may be Ratan was giving good service with expectation of better tips. I tried to get information from my other colleagues how much they give as tips. At the end of month one day I offered a note to Ratan. He shrank like anything and told me that he is doing his duty, not for tips, he can not take that. I did not force to keep his dignity. I got the same service without any tips as long as I was there. Now I think, did I do emotional blackmail.

Who is rich?

Interrogator : What do you dream to have?

Man: If I could have lots of money, I could have lived my dream life.

Int:  Do you have any idea how much you want to have dream life? Suppose you are offered to get the amount as you ask. How much will you ask?

Man: I want to be a billionaire. I do not have definite idea, but what I want is I need not have to think about the price what I wish to get.

Int: OK, I understand. So what do you wish to get if you become a rich?

Man: A big palace, a nice car, travels around the world, some good food which I like to eat. I want to have a relaxed life, no work, no headache.

Int: How big palace do you need?

Man: It should be big independent house, rooms should be spacious. It should have separate rooms for each of my family members and two for my guests. It should have a big study room for me and a big balcony with nice scenic view. It should have a tennis court, swimming pool and a back yard.

Int: How it will be if the palace be on an island while your palace is the only one.

Man: How shall I get the supply?

Int: No , that’s not a problem. When you need something special boat from mainland will be ready for you.

Man: Fantastic, that will be nice.

Int: Will you agree if you told to stay alone?

Man: Hey, what the fun to be rich if I need to cook for myself and do household work?

Int: OK,OK. Say chef,  maid , gardener etc will be provided. You do not have to do any work. Things will be ready as you order. Then?

Man: Then it is fine. But I shall not enjoy fullest if I stay alone. Without my family I shall not be happy.

Int: If your family is not allowed?

Man: Then what is the value of money if I can not keep my family with me. I can not call me rich if my wish is not fulfilled.

Int: I agree. Let your family be with you. I asked , because you did not mentioned about your family when you told your wish as a rich man.

Man: That is obvious, what is the use of money if I am not happy.

Int: Definitely. But if there is a clause that you can not tell anyone about your palace, how will you feel?

Man: But if any of my family member tells?

Int: No, if anyone other than your family member get to know about it, it will be taken back from you.

Man: Though it is bad, I can agree with it. But if you can not keep in touch with your friends and relatives then life will be boring.

Int: That is correct. You can go to main land and spend time with your friend and relatives, but you can not tell them about your palace.

Man: I understand, but I shall be definitely happy if I could invite my friends and relatives to my palace and show them.

Int: What will you be proud of? It is not your hard earned property, it is just by luck. Do you want to show your possession and make them jealous about you?

Man: No no , never. I shall be happy if I can receive my friends and relatives in my palace.

Int: Will you be jealous if you see someone with such big palace?

Man: No , no. I am not of that kind. And even someone be jealous that is quite natural.

Int: OK, how long can you spend time there? Lifelong?

Man: Yes lifelong, if I can be in touch with my friends and relatives. I need to talk to people other than my family, otherwise I shall be a psychiatric patient. Moreover as I told, being a rich I shall travel across the globe. I know you will ask whether I shall travel alone or with family. I want to travel along with my family.

Int: What is the gain of traveling?

Man: Enjoying the beauty of earth and to know various cultures.

Int: Yah, enjoyment is important. How if a private airline is arranged for you from your island?

Man: Is it a trap again? You will ask something else again?

Int: No no.

Man: Yes that will be definitely good and utilization of money.

Int: Yes you will have the comfort and no dependency.

Man: That is also a dream I did not mentioned initially.

Int: You will travel all the nice places of world. But if I say you to prioritize the list, what will be the first 3 places you will choose?

Man: NewYork , Paris and HongKong.

Int: Why these three?

Man: These are the most famous places in the world; I believe and want to visit those.

Int: But what the beauty of earth will you see in these concrete jungles?

Man: No, natural beauty is not there, but there is lots of things worth to see.

Int: Will you like to take your own chef and assistances with you, so that you feel at home even during travel?

Man: That will be fantastic.

Int: But as your private airline will be operated from your island, you can not tell anyone about the tour.

Man: But if you can not share your experience with others, half of the fun of travel is gone.

Int: You can share your experience in popular travel blog, or some unknown community, but not to your known people.

Man: Telling to friends and relatives are different charm.

Int: That’s true. Do you visit costly restaurants?

Man: Very rarely, I wish if could visit frequently if I would have lots of money.

Int: Did it ever happen that you could not order some items because of high price?

Man: In costly restaurant it always happens. We need to choose some cheap ones.

Int: Yeh, that the reality for all of us. Once there was a party from my office in such costly restaurant. We enjoyed a lot. If you get a free coupon from office for a buffet launch, how will you enjoy it?

Man: Definitely will try first for the costly items, then other items, as much as I can?

Int: Why the costly items? Do you think costly foods are always testier?

Man: No, we do not get chance to test the costly items and later we can guide our friends whether to go for some particular costly plates or not. Will you tell me how shall I feel if I am not allowed to share my experience with friends?

Int: No no , I shall not ask you such. I felt if your activities and wishes are restricted you do not feel that you are rich.

Man: Definitely, I told you that if you can fulfill your wishes without concerning cost that is the richness. Less your concern more rich you are.

Int: Yes, as I understood from you richness is a feeling of freedom to fulfill your wishes.

Man: Exactly

Int: But even rich person can not wish anything. If all the wealth of world belongs to a single person he will be the richest person, can he wish to kill half of the population of world?

Man: That is absurd wish. On humanity ground you can not wish such thing.

Int: If he wishes to have a visit to mars?

Man: That is also absurd because technically that is not possible.

Int: But his wishes are being restricted. Will you call him a rich man?

Man: Your wishes should be within a limit. Under the limit if you can fulfill your wish then you are a rich man.

Int: So if I go in other direction, if someone has small dream and if he can fulfill it will you call him a rich man.

Man: You are putting me in trap. Yes, as per I told earlier he will feel himself as a rich man.

Int: I have one question. Why did you think of one house, one car? Do you think all people will think similar to you?

Man: It depends on individual’s perception, conception, thought process. That’s for people are different.

Int: Correct, I feel it is feeling of the heart and every different individual is correct in his position. So your feeling of richness may be different from others.

Man: That may be.

Int: So if Mother Teresa says that she only dreams to help others and if she does so, will you call her a rich woman.

Man:  I have no other way to say Yes. I know I am in my own trap.

 

Note: This is our Indian philosophy of richness. This is one discussion we had in office with a colleague. I tried to keep as much natural as I remember. I feel the discussion will be resonating with most of the people.

 

Most of us have a vague idea about the richness. We do not know what exactly we want. If we analyze deeply, our wish to be rich is mainly to show off to others. We want to see others jealous to us, rather than using money for our happiness. Satisfaction from others’ jealousy is a kind of crude happiness. Happiness is the ultimate term in life.  So if someone can use his money to get his desired happiness then he is using money properly and is a rich man.

Hello world!

Starting my web blog today. This is to share my thoughts with the world and to check if any resonance is found from any corner of heart. My writing may not be valuable from literature perspective, as I don’t feel that I have the capacity to create such. Please bear with this and try to concentrate on my inner feelings, thoughts. You also know for definite that your all responses will give me a pleasure ( if you do not hurt me very crudely ), as my deeper mind will feel itself to be useful and valuable. But do not bother to put difference of opinion, because through that I shall learn something new or can judge where my thoughts stand.