I had one colleague who used to commute by train. That time in our area ticket checking was not enforced very strictly especially during the very rush office hours. But time to time it used to take place and whoever was used to get caught had to give fine. My colleague was daily passenger for 10 years in the same route. One day he told that first two years he traveled paying fare and after that he never bought a ticket. He observed total number of days in a year he has been asked to show ticket. He found that if he pays fine for that many days it turns out to be much less that the cost of ticket of the whole year. After doing the cost benefit analysis he found it is profitable for him to pay fine whenever he get caught than to than to be a regular ticket buyer. I found that he had no guilty feeling for his action. He told that “the day I shall find that cost of paying fine is more than the cost of buying daily ticket, I shall buy ticket regularly.” Some of our other colleague supported him and some did not. People, who supported him told that, let the law implementer make a situation to force him to follow the rule. If the rule is not implemented there is no wrong in breaking it. People who did not support him told that from ethical and social point of view this is not right, whether you get caught or not. Who is correct?
Do you tell lie? Definitely, in real life everyone tells lie, especially if the lie is told for someone’s good. But do you tell your kids or your younger brothers and sisters not to tell lie? Yes, that is also true. So how do you justify yourself? Don’t you feel to say that telling lie is guilt but not always? How do you make the demarcation of when to tell lie and when not?
I feel we all in our real life suffer from dilemma whether to follow rule always or not and when can we loose ourselves to strictly follow the rule. As kids, we are always taught to strictly follow the rules and laws. For a little deviation we are given big punishments. So from childhood we learn how to find the gap in the rule. On the other hand we find our elders to break rules. So we learn that rules can be broken and to take shelter we need to find the weak area of the rule.
We are never taught to follow the spirit of the rule. Had it been taught properly, we could understand that we can not violate a rule even there is a gap, if it is against the sprit of the rule and we can break the rule, if it is not violating the sprit of the rule.
All through the world Science subjects are considered most important subjects in school. Out of these Math is the most. Because we like reasoning and we love to learn reasoning. For a mathematical problem there is a strong reasoning and we reach same result all the time whenever we do it. Reasoning is required in life, but the way we are brought up, we learn that there is a single answer to every question. With the changing examination type towards objective type the impression is getting farm to the student’s mind. But is life like that? In our life for most of the cases we need to do balance. We need to find an optimum solution, be it personal life or in office. It need quality of judging, which is not taught in childhood. I feel, that is the dark part of our education system which is causing lots of trouble in our social life.
For reasoning we need some logical blocks. If we know how to put the logical blocks properly, we can reach single and the only possible solution. But judgment depends on value system and application of the values for the problem. When we do reasoning we are pretty sure about the single solution and we need not be open to hear others. But if we consciously do judgment we know that there may be alternative solutions and we become open to listen to others. While judging, we know that your decision may not be the ultimate perfect one and there is always a risk of error associated with the decision, which we need to bear. If we put wrong logic we reach a wrong solution, but we become confident about the solution. When you prefer wrong value in judgment, you know different people may have different preference in judgment. Normally logics are specific to a domain and so have less influence in other domain. But influences of value system in judgments are wider. So once we learn from mistake, if it is a judgment it changes value system and influences wider future activities. This is called experience. That’s for experience is always given higher preference in life even not in the same domain.
Due to our over emphasis on reasoning in our childhood we tend to believe that whatever decision we take are based on reasoning, but lots actually are judgments. We do not know how to take a judgmental decision systematically and our value system is not strong and clear to us. So on illusion of decision based on reasoning we become overconfident on our decision as we think it to be the only solution. We close our ear to hear others as we think this is based on strong reasoning. We always feel fear about the incorrectness of our decision as we feel that this proves lack of our knowledge and logical incompetence. If our decision is really proven to be wrong, we get a great shock as we were not open about the risk of the decision.
It is tougher to build value system and to teach to make judgment. But it has a better utility in life. Waiting for a time, when our education system will teach us to be a better human than a mere scientist.
Abbas is seven years old. Like others he loves his father very much. He copies his father’s gesture, posture, style. That is quite obvious. He sees his father going for job for which her mother is also very proud. His father brings foods and toys. His father takes most of the decision for their family. His father is his hero. Children learn from parents by copying. He talks like his father over phone, relax on sofa like his father. His mother told him that his father studied well and that for doing such a good job. Though he does not understand the relation, but he makes a mapping that if he recites tables well, if he remembers poems, somehow he will be like his father. So he is inspired to do study. Moreover his mother tells him to be better than his father. He knows one person to be better than his father. He is his father’s boss. One day they went to boss’s house. Seeing the house, getting the reception and observing his father’s behavior with boss, Abbas felt boss to be better person and so it is not bad to be like the boss.
One day his father returned home with frustration. That time Abbas was trying to memorize a table. Furiously his father threw his tie at one corner, sitting on sofa he was kicking on floor. He was saying so many things to his mother about his boss. Abbas could not understand these all. One thing he could understand as his father told “I would have killed boss if I had a gun with me”. Hearing that Abbas got confused, why to by heart the table, to be a killer like his father or to be killed by his father.
“The only purpose of education is to teach a student how to live his life-by developing his mind and equipping him to deal with reality. ..” – Ayn Rand. Reading the quotation all of us will nod our head and will say “correct, absolutely correct”.
When we get a master or doctorate degree in any of our chosen stream after spending around 20 years in education system we feel we have received best of our education. Yes, it enables us to appear for an interview for a well salaried post. What else did the education system taught us to deal with the reality? Did you learn how to make good friend? Did you learn how to cooperate others and how to get cooperation of others? Did you learn how to talk to others? Did you learn how to impress other? Did you learn how to present yourself? Did you learn how to select your life partner? Did you learn how to approach and propose your liked partner? Did you learn how to plan your career? Did you learn how to manage people in workplace? Did you learn how to enjoy your married life? Did you learn how to keep peace in family life? Did you learn how to make saving? Did you learn how to use the saved money? Did you learn how to take care of your kid? Did you learn how to guide your kid to grow? Did you learn how to do work and life balance? Did you learn how to control your tension? Did you learn how to plan for your old age life? Did you learn how to be happy? …….
The way we deal the problems are based on our own perception, instant reaction and some spurious input in our life. No methodical and guided approaches are followed. Now go through the initial quotation again and think whether you are educated or not.